When Holding Everything Together Is Holding You Back

Badass Woman, I see how you are.

In every room you enter, you become the one people turn to. You are the leader at work, the cornerstone at home, the steady hand in your community.

Your presence feels essential — not only to you, but to everyone around you. If you were to step away, even slightly, there is a real fear that everything would unravel.

This is not an illusion. You have built strong systems. You have carried the weight of others’ needs for years, often without recognition and often without pause. Your leadership is not questioned. But it is also not sustainable when it becomes the sole structure upon which everything else rests.

At a certain point, this form of leadership begins to create a private tension: the sense that your own calling must be delayed, sacrificed, or sidelined in order to keep the current system intact.

The conventional advice you may hear often misses the real issue. You are told to manage your time better, set boundaries, or practice self-care. These solutions assume that the problem is logistical. It is not.

The real problem is internal: it is the belief that your value comes from being indispensable to others, rather than essential to your own purpose.

Leadership is not meant to become a life sentence of maintenance. It is meant to evolve. True leadership involves building systems strong enough to stand — and then leading yourself into the next chapter, trusting that what has been built can survive new boundaries, new directions, and new definitions of service.

Answering the call to become a life coach is not an abandonment of your leadership. It is the expansion of it. It is an act of building something larger: a life organized around purpose, not just responsibility.

This is your spiritual strength at work, Dear Friend. Give the Universe a chance to support you.