The Full Moon in Aries rises at 20h40 on Thursday, October 5th. Please sign-up to get the Monthly Full Moon Ritual and prepare yourself to start right away. It is free to participate. The Full Moon rises on October 5th, but the ritual starts on October 2nd so that you can take full advantage of the Shadow Work and Healing for the whole 10-day period that the Full Moon affects us. If you’re late starting, don’t fret. Just sign-up and start the program on the indicated day. You can also go back to the beginning and just follow along at your own pace.
Aries is ruled by the planet Mars and the two shape our self concept, our ego, and our approach to life. If you want to know how Aries and Mars are functioning in your astrological make-up, order your birth chart. It’s over 30 pages long and it tells you how the stars and planets are affecting YOU. It’s your Soul’s Divine Blueprint and is an essential part of your self-awareness toolkit. Right now, the Sun is in Libra, which is the sign of relationships, balance, harmony and integrity, so we are all experiencing a pull in that direction. The Full Moon always rises in the sign opposite the Sun, so the Full Moon is in Aries. While the Sun is masculine and draws our energy outward into the material world, the Moon is feminine and helps create balance by drawing our energy inward for healing and restructuring. The Sun in Libra is pushing us to find balance and harmony in relationship and is urging us to be in integrity (aligned with body, mind and Spirit,) the Moon in Aries is supporting that agenda by having us look at our self concept, our ego and our approach to life.
Now, it’s really important that during this Moon phase, we do two things– think about what we want for ourselves, and look at the blockages within us that are keeping us from manifesting it. If you’ve been following my blog, you’ll know that I’m constantly asking you to explore your heart and dig deep to look at your true desires. I’m not talking about the wants imposed by society, a feeble bank account, or small-minded thinking. Those have nothing to do with your magnificent heart or the Truth of who you really are. Those are just the challenges you are meant to overcome in your journey to self-actualization. I am talking about the BIG, true, soul-wrenching desires that are your Goddess-given potential and the aim for being here on Earth. Those are the desires that want to come through you. Because the Full Moon in Aries is about Badassery, I suggest that you get very honest about the things that you want to accomplish in your life but haven’t; or look at the things that you want to do, but don’t. We need to take a Badass approach to our lives to accomplish what we desire. SO, right now, while the Full Moon is in the badass sign of Aries, your job is to spend the next 10-12 days digging past your own limiting view point of yourself (and the world) and to dive deep into the well of your heart to uncover the giant nugget of gold that is actually your greatest potential: your Badass Self.
Okay, so what you’re digging through is a messy amalgamation of limiting beliefs, feelings of weakness, self-doubt, anxiety, mistrust and fear and some bad habits that you might have let get out of control. There is no Badass that lets themselves be kept down by these things. The thing that makes a Badass badass is their refusal to be held back by the only thing that could destroy them: their own fears and limitations. So this means you’re gonna have to muddle through all that limiting thinking and behavior, sort it out, heal it and then put yourself back together with a new foundation of confidence, strength and a Yes-I-Can attitude (I-Cans-Badass.)
Doing the Full Moon ritual for 10 days is going to take you through the process of uncovering the Shadow (the limiting beliefs, negative thoughts and poor behavioral choices) that is blocking your heart. I’m going to also suggest that you consider registering for my Emotional Wellness Level I: Healing the Shadow program. This is an 8-week program that teaches you how to do Shadow Work deeply, thoroughly, and LOVINGLY. Most people cannot heal themselves on their own because they’re too deep in the forest to see the trees. Or it takes so damned long that even years later they’re still feeling stuck. Neither are we taught how to heal ourselves and work with our Shadow when we are young. This is when we really should have been taught! Hahahaha! Instead, we’re taught to grin and bear it and we learn to stuff down our feelings. Stuffing your feelings is NOT dealing with your emotions, Friends! Grinning and bearing it is only to be done when you’re invited for dinner and the stuffing is too dry. Don’t be authentic then. Grin and bear that. But if your respected friend or your boss has a habit of belittling you, you need to address that from a place of self-respect and authority. You don’t have to be rude or arrogant, but you gotta do something about it.
As adults who are trying to create a beautiful life worth living, we need to be re-educated about who we are and what this world is. Most of us think that we are limited by circumstances but WE ARE NOT. If you’re reading this blog, you probably know intellectually that you are not limited, but maybe you’re having difficulty putting the spiritual theories of abundance and manifestation into work in your life in a real and practical way. Look, you don’t have to figure out all this stuff on your own. My Emotional Wellness program teaches you how to do Shadow Work thoroughly, coaches you on your particular issues and empowers you to take charge of your emotions and your mindset. My Emotional Wellness Level I: Healing the Shadow program is the first step in Badassery. Read about the program and then book yourself in for an Emotional Wellness Strategizing Session with me to talk about how my system of emotional healing can work for you. You must have a discussion with me before you enroll in the program because the work is designed to take you deep into healing your emotions so that you can live free from emotional baggage. That is not an easy task! We need to make sure you’re prepared and I also want to meet you. Also, we’re going to be working together intimately and we need a strategy to approach your emotional wellness. The program is partially self-guided study, but there is also a powerful coaching aspect. This is where you work with me to put the ideas to work. I put this program together to help you thrive and I want you to succeed in it, so I offer a complimentary one-on-one session to make sure that the program is a good fit before you enroll. Please look at the program and book your Emotional Wellness Strategizing Session.
With all that being said, in order to really be Badass, you’ve got to do your Shadow work to find out what’s holding back your badass self. Right now, you’ve got to the Sun in Libra helping you inventory your life in terms of how you are relating to other people. Very often we look at other people and we point the finger at what’s wrong with them, but we forget that when we point, there are three of our own fingers pointing back at us. Grrr… All that judgment is coming from our own anger or resentment of what is not healed within us. There’s an article here on my site by a dude named Matthew Blaise. It’s an excellent write-up that talks about how relationships are the mirror of the ego. Have a read of it sometime. Between now and October 21st, we can see ourselves by examining our relationships with other people. It is essential for us to learn that people are mirrors for us. What we like about another person is a reflection of what is beautiful in us. Likewise is what we disdain. So right now, while the Sun is in Libra, relationships can be used to help us see ourselves from another viewpoint. I feel like the best way to do this is to be very mindful of how we feel when we are around certain people. The Law of Attraction is active and alive in all of our relationships. Look at your circle of friends. Are they thriving, vibrant, positive people who are full of trust and joie de vivre? Or are your friends rather cynical, broken, battered, and angry? Don’t look at their circumstances like money or class or education. That is not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about their attitude toward life. When the hard times come (we all experience hard times) are they solutions-oriented or victim-y? Do they see hard times as punishment or opportunity? Do they medicate and suppress their emotions or do they live full-spectrum lives of authenticity?
Dr. Martin Luther King said, “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” It’s easy to not be an asshole when life is easy. It’s how one behaves when the going gets tough that matters.
As you survey your posse, understand that your feelings about them are reflections of something that is inside of you. If you REALLY want to get into this, watch this very thought-provoking video by Gregg Braden. The Sun in Libra is going to show you what is going on with YOU by illuminating your relationship with other people. To illustrate my point, I was talking to my very best friend (my super-duper-trusting best friend) and it came out that he thought I was a failure because I wasn’t more financially stable according to his standards. He thought that I should find a job that would pay my bills and afford me a more luxurious lifestyle instead of building my business, my blog and my programs. WOW. I was floored.
This is the person with whom I share all my deep fears, my dreams, my hopes, and my challenges. He knows me intimately. I was shocked that when I was sharing my disappointments, he was keeping track and tallying them up to be failures. Now look, only I can judge myself as a failure. Nobody else’s opinion matters. My bestie, in his conscious mind, knows that I am a tenacious fighter who enjoys challenges and see opportunities and learning around every corner. He knows, on a conscious level, that every new business needs at least five years before it hits its stride and can start thriving. He knows, on a conscious level, that I have only been in this online business for three years. He also knows, on a conscious level, that I believe in my Soul’s Destiny and my Soul’s process. I am not a quick-fix girl. I am a deep experience, full-spectrum woman who savors and appreciates every aspect of her existence. I am Badass and that is not about ease, it’s about full-spectrum. HA! I even asked my doctor if I could just have local anethetic so that I could watch my major surgery because I didn’t want to miss a single moment. He said, Hell no! But he did take pictures for me! That was gnarly, but mine. So when my bestie told me that he thought that I made foolish mistakes and that instead of working on my own business for 14 hours a day, that I should get a job, I was astounded and heart-broken. Because he is my best friend and we give one another space to work out our authentic feelings, we found the place of healing. He realized that he had been harboring deep fears about his own ability to succeed as a small businessman. He found that he was actually jealous of my passion and my ability to know my life purpose. Yes, he does see me struggle (it ain’t easy being a Shadow expert. I am an expert because I am knee-deep in the shit.) He has watched me working for years learning, expanding, and YES, making shitloads of mistakes. The thing is, I talk about my ‘mistakes’ like they were stepping stones on the way to greatness even though they may have me in tears. Blood, sweat and tears are as valid as joy, ecstasy and success. But look, my heroes are the people who have tenacity and grit– people who overcame the shit to create a better future. I like the stories of business people who fucked up 100xs and then nailed it on the 101st; and then headed for the next step in their evolution. If they had given up, they would not have known they could do achieve their goal.
And we can all achieve our goals.
For my friend, looking at me made him see where he plays things very safe and he has been very comfortable being small in his thinking and safe in his control. By the way, he did not know on a conscious level that he had been harboring resentful feelings about me and my business journey until the Sun started illuminating me for him. And honestly, I did not know that I was a tenacious bulldog that would NEVER give up until the Sun illuminated him for me. The thing is, I didn’t have the same feelings toward him. While he is successful in his business, I do not desire to be like him. This exchange showed me that I am courageous as all get out and that I have immense trust in my vision. I know where I am going.
With the Sun in Libra, there is a great opportunity to let our relationships show us who we are. The Full Moon in Aries, though, is about taking what we are learning and applying it to ourselves. ARIES KNOWS WHAT IT WANTS AND IT’S NOT AFRAID TO GET IT. The Full Moon in Aries is going to show you what is blocking you from getting what you want. So, when my bestie was like, Hey, Crystal Lynn– get a job. I was like, fuck that! I will never work for someone else. It has made me tenacious and VERY clear about who I am and what I want. I am always tuned into the Moon energies ahead of the game, so that I can share them with you. That’s my job. Hahahaha! I like working for you! On my own terms, of course! Hahahaha! So yeah, your job during this Full Moon in Aries phase is to get very clear about what you want by looking at the barriers in your own thoughts, beliefs and behaviors. As I’ve said, Aries rules the self concept , the ego and your approach to life. Look at yourself, Friend. Where are you blocked in your self expression? Where are you blocked in your confidence, self-esteem, and belief in your ability to carry out your dreams? Where do you feel like the world does not want what you have to offer?
I work with a lot of people who want to write, coach, and teach, but all they feel like they are not qualified to lead because they don’t think people want to hear their stories; or they think that their experience and perspective is not good enough to share. BOLOGNA! Look, I’m not saying that you don’t need a plan, a strategy, more education or more experience, but I am saying that the piss-poor attitude of I’m not good enough and I’m too small and I am too insignificant is waaaaaaay outdated. Look, it takes a lot of work to build a business and to write a book. But you have got to start somewhere and this whole thing of not ever starting is just lame. Stop it, Darling. Stop hiding behind the mask of negative self-feelings. Not only are you robbing yourself of the joy of doing your sacred Life Purpose work, but you’re robbing us of the opportunity to benefit from your creativity. I WANT YOUR CONTRIBUTION. I want your creativity. I need you to be authentic because it gives others around you permission to be. I need you to stop worrying about what other people think so that I can be inspired by your courage. I need you to stop hiding, because I KNOW you have at least several good ideas that will remind me of my own magnificence. I am a reflection of you, so get your ass up and dance!
Aries is about being seen, being bold, being badass. The Full Moon in Aries wants to awaken your badass self.
During the 10-day Full Moon ritual, we spend the first few days exploring the Shadow. Then we heal, heal, heal. Then we invite a new attitude and we practice, practice, practice. Join the ritual, book in for my program, heal your life. And of course, go for your dream. I’ll see you in the ritual! And friends, please join my Facebook group. It’s full of loving support, healing and Shadow Work as guided in the Moon Ritual: https://www.facebook.com/groups/EmotionalWellnessandSpiritualEmpowerment/
I love reading this!!! Your spirit and energy is amazing and so inspiring!!! I’m getting clear on the fear that is all up in me. Fear about everything. Truly moving forward with a divirce I have asked for, fear of taking a new job, or not taking it and taking time out for myself with unemployment and sould searching, rest and healing. I don’t even know what to go for becaus I don’t truly know what I want to go for. You are so clear with what you are creating, I just feel like I’m in this constant questioning mode of What do I want? How big does it need to be? I wonder if I can shed this crap that I’m holding onto and tto scared to move on from, if then these passions and desires will reveal themselves to me. Or atleast, I can be able to recognize my desire and own it. Thanks so much for this. I’m excited to explore these shadows and continue to heal. xx
I really love your enthusiasm, COCO! Getting clear on the fear is SOOOO important. All that change is bound to make one a little nervous and gun-shy. Coco, are you in my Facebook group? I’m gonna add you over there because I think you’re telling the perspective of many, many people. Thank you for being so candid and true.
Muah. Thank you for the add to the group. It’s interesting to see how I’ve asked for things and then I’m still fearful to follow through. Xx
I am really curious about the moon ritual on Oct 5th. doing some research on exactly how to do it and get results. I am trying to get my husband to do it also but i have to give him details down to the T. would you recommend doing it outside? What is you facebook page i would love to be added.Thank you for your time and energy. Nikole Turner
I LOVE THIS, Nikole! The October 5th ritual will be released in about four hours. I LOVE that you and your husband might do it together. The Moon is very romantic and a catalyst for intimacy. I do recommend doing it outside whenever possible, but only if it is easy and carefree for you. I didn’t realize that I didn’t post the link to the Facebook group in the write=up. I’ll do it now. But here it is for you: https://www.facebook.com/groups/EmotionalWellnessandSpiritualEmpowerment/
Wow! Like I am so moved right now. I have lost 2 different types of love for another being in life that I feel like it’s breaking me mentally. Now I feel likes it’s physically destroying me and who I used to be. I lost my daughter to S.I.D.S and her father got deported and killed in his country. So now I’m still trying to make it and live right but letting them go is the most painful thing I’ve ever endured. I’m trying to go thru this alone cause I’m all i got. But Its hard seeing a future without them. Reading this has opened my eyes a lot. What’s crazy is that I seen a white owl over a beautiful pond with a deck built in the middle of it and the moon was shining so bright I could see it sitting there. Just looking around but i completely got lost thru the beauty and just by seeing such a beautiful bird sitting there did something to me. I googled the meaning of seeing a white owl and that led me to your website. Thank you
Mona, I”m so happy that you have come here and shared your story with me. The pain you are bearing is tremendous and my heart, love and prayers go to you in deepest support. I wish you the best on the journey to healing. If you want to join my Emotional Wellness Facebook group, it would be so good to have you there.
So much love for you Tejo Mona. You’re so brave to reach out and speak up. Even though you feel alone, Please believe that you are not alone and there are people here to listen and support you. xx -C